Secondary infertility

You are NOT Emotionally Homeless

Secondary infertility can feel like emotional homelessness. What do I mean by that? Well. You have a child. But real moms have children. Real moms are jugging multiple kids, multiple schedules, multiple meltdowns and double or triple the mess. Real moms birthed families. I can’t tell you how many times a well intentioned “real mom” said […]

Read More

How Romance Reading Saved My Sanity: Infertility and the Baby Making Bedroom

Real Talk. If you are related to me or my husband, perhaps a former teacher or just generally someone who DOES NOT want to see me talk about sex, be ye warned. I mean it. Stop reading! Get out of here, Dad. Incoming awkward subject. But I know I cannot be the only one who […]

Read More

Yes, I’m Still Watching: How ‘The Office’ Carried Me Through Infertility

Actually, yes, Netflix. I am still watching The Office. I’m still watching it now and I was still watching it every time you asked me during the two and half miserable years when we were trying and failing to have another baby. I couldn’t stop watching. When I was watching Michael stumbling and flailing about […]

Read More

A Break in the Clouds: Our Infertility Story (4)

In late September of 2016 we tried our first and only IUI procedure. Our favorite doctor recommended it to us as the next logical step after not having success with Clomid. The whole thing was completely surreal. The medication. The scans. Standing in my kitchen and letting Bill administer a shot. The procedure itself. The […]

Read More

Dark Skies: Our Infertility Story (3)

For me, infertility had three distinct phases. Each one had its own painful theme. Phase One: We deserve to get pregnant because of how much this sucks, please, God, please. Technically the first year we were trying we were not yet considered “infertile”. But Gemma was almost three. Three!!! I’d spent ALL of 2014 obsessing […]

Read More

The Wind and the Rain: Our Infertility Story (2)

We had been trying to get pregnant for four months when Bill’s mother died. A year before Bill and I got married she had been diagnosed with a progressive lung disease called pulmonary fibrosis. It’s a rare disease and I wouldn’t be surprised if you’ve never heard of it. But it kills as many people […]

Read More

It Doesn’t Feel Secondary

I like words. I like words in a vast  and sweeping what does it means to be human kind of way. My major in college was English Literature but it was a hard choice between that and Linguistics. I’ve always had very economically advantageous academic interests. Anyway. I think a lot about words and what they […]

Read More
Social media & sharing icons powered by UltimatelySocial